How to be really happy and love your life

Part 2: Beyond Psychology 

Would you like to be really happy and love your life? 

I would, so I signed up for a year-long course to embed the feeling.

It has five parts, and as I always understand better once I’ve taught it, I’m writing five blogs to fill you in on my insights and takeaways… 

Part 1: Beyond Ego in January taught me that when we drop the ego i.e. our self-image – how we want others to see us –  and be ourselves (who are made of love and happiness) we are so much nicer, less caught up in our stories, much more peaceful, more connected to our happiness, and easily connected with others. Read January’s Blog for how to do this. 

Part 2: Beyond Psychology last weekend we uncovered the secrets to mental health and well-being, which in layman’s terms, means dropping your thinking (Psychology) and seeing what’s beyond, or before it. What do you know, beyond what you think? 

Curious? Here are three takeaways: 

1. We were born with mental health and wellbeing 

Babies don’t need therapy. We were born with an innate sense of mental health, wellbeing and resilience to navigate our lives. Mental health and wellbeing, therefore, is not something you need to work on, earn, or figure out; you just need to stop forgetting it’s there, underneath all the thought, noise and emotions that come and go on top of it. 

2. Thought is a tool – how are you using it? 

The gift of thought is what sets humans apart from other animals. It’s a tool, and like any tool, we can use it to create magnificent things, or we can use it as a weapon against ourselves and others.  

Anyone else dabble in a bit of self-abuse thinking from time to time? 

Two questions for you: 

• Does it help? 

• Does it hurt? 

  
  

If it doesn’t help (even if you might think it will change your behaviour) and doesn’t feel nice (it never does), then maybe drop that thought, i.e. stop feeding it, pouring attention on it, it’s messing with your mental health. Instead, ask yourself what you know. 

3. What do you know? 

We played a simple game that was harder than it looked. We passed around the microphone, stating something we thought and something we knew. E.g. 

• I think about not making enough money a lot, 

• I know I always have enough money to do what I love. 

• I think the Board will be unhappy with this month's figures, 

• I know I have done my best and am open to suggestions. 

• I think my team think I’m a slave driver, 

• I know I’m a good leader and I’m learning every day. 

  
  

Try one for yourself. Notice how the “I think” feels vs. the “I know”. For me, the first one has an unsettled feel about it, as I’m way up in my head. The latter comes from a deeper, settled place, and has me much more grounded. 

So, how to be really happy and love your life? 

Be guided from your knowing, not your thinking. 

As I mentioned above, thinking is not bad, it’s a creative gift, and when used to write songs, problem solve, find an answer, it’s damn helpful. If the way we’re using it seems to help and feels nice, keep on using it! 

And when it doesn’t feel nice, and doesn’t seem to be (genuinely helping), ask yourself: 

• “What do I know about this?!” 

• “Given that knowing, what do I know to do?!” 

  
  

When you’re guided by your knowing, rather than your “stinking thinking” you will feel better, relate better and perform better, i.e. be really happy and love your life. 

Now, over to you: 

• What’s your biggest insight from reading this?  

• Where have you been unhelpfully guided by your thinking, rather than your knowing?  

If you’d love to live and lead this way, book a call, I’ve got your back, your every happiness is just here. 

Happily Yours,  

Mehalah 

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Mehalah Beckett is a coach, consultant and trusted advisor passionate about people, the planet and empowering others to inspire positive change. She coaches purpose-driven leaders to impossible goals, hosts MasterMinds for hungry entrepreneurs and guides businesses through B-Corp. What can I help you achieve over the next year?