๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ is your ability to combine your technical knowledge with leadership, empathy and relationship skills which is unusual for the environments youโve been working in.
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๐๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐ ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐๐ซ, which has got you to where you are today. You wish you had more time to be more strategic, but canโt bring yourself to take time out, for fear of getting behind, or judged for taking your foot off the gas.
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๐๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐๐, always striving for solutions, which keeps you moving forward, but that desire for external validation from constant achievement has you working twice as hard, with an underlying level of anxiety that youโll fail.
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๐๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฅ๐๐ญ ๐จ๐ง, which means you are always striving to be better, but this breeds unhealthy comparison and makes you protective, less able to admit your weaknesses and reach out for help.
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๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ก๐ข๐ ๐ก ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐๐ฌ, and your reputation proceeds you. You have similarly high expectations of everyone else which puts inordinate stress on your team and partners, and you often get let down. That really hurts as you go out of your way to support them to shine.
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๐๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐๐ and you support your peers beyond any reasonable expectations โ everyone loves you for that. Problem is, youโve built such an empire of loyal supporters it will be very hard to make the step change you need to make. You donโt like to leave people behind.
๐๐จ๐ฎโ๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐ญ ๐ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐, rising through the ranks at work or growing your business from scratch, which makes you look and feel successful in the traditional sense. Afraid of losing what you have worked so hard for, youโre scared to step up into the unknown and become the impactful leader you know you can be.
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๐๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐๐ง ๐๐ฆ๐๐ณ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง, ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ ๐ข๐๐ญ๐ฌ ๐๐๐ง ๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐ค.
I know because this was me.
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